Memorial Day

topic posted Sun, May 24, 2009 - 2:50 PM by 
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They take it seriously in my town. Lots of big Italian families, lots of blue-collar families who've lost people to war or to accident or illness. Huge family dinners.

Right now, just now, out of the blue, because she knows I'm on my own today and approves of my iris garden, the next door neighbor lady brought me dinner: a bbq chicken leg, potato salad, macaroni salad, baked beans, green salad with ranch dressing, a couple of ham cubes, and a buttered biscuit--the feast her family is having.

An hour ago, she showed me her new great-grandbaby--a gorgeous little girl named Isabella--3 months old, with her fuzzy dark hair just growing in. Her own daughter, a new grandmother now my age, smiled at me with that combination of friendliness and suspicion all daughters show to friends of their mothers who are approximately their own age.

I never knew Sunshine (I think she said something mean to me once, years ago, but it was witty, so I laughed and didn't mind, and that was the extent of our exchanges), but any loss here is a loss to the whole community, and it ripples in different ways, and I sorrow just the same.

If I could send you all a lovely bit of the dinner of your choice, for Memorial Day, I would.
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  • Re: Memorial Day

    Sun, May 24, 2009 - 2:57 PM
    Thank you, Shannon. What a lovely and thoughtful post.

    Cheers!
    : D
    • Re: Memorial Day

      Sun, May 24, 2009 - 3:14 PM
      So what do you want for Memorial Day dinner, John and Denisey?

      I'm about to make lemon bars for dessert--one of those other old-fashioned customs, to send back a borrowed plate full of something else nice. And because it's a sunny, lemon bar day. Also, before dinner, and because I am in a nostalgic mood, I made myself a whiskey sour--1 oz lemon juice, one oz simple syrup, 2 oz rye whiskey (and a dash of bitters maybe if you want a bit of spice).

      So now we need a salad or appetizer or two, and a main course, and some really good veggies.
      • Re: Memorial Day

        Sun, May 24, 2009 - 3:28 PM
        Well.....seeing as it's a holiday and all, I think I'll skip dinner and just go for the lemon bars! ; )

        (BBQ anything, really - chicken, beef, fish - even the veggies. I'm pure California, I believe you can grill anything...)

        : D
      • Re: Memorial Day

        Sun, May 24, 2009 - 3:30 PM
        I'm making a platter with shumai, gyoza and lumpia with three different sauces for my friend X. I hope she stays to watch a movie with me. Friday I wore a black leather vest with an American flag on the back with U.S.A. on the top just below the neck. Alot of people commented on it. It's like new. I got it at a garage sale in Eureka last week for twenty bucks. Some people said "You should wait till the fourth of July to wear that." I said "Um. I'll wear it then too. But it is Memorial Day and I'm feeling very patriotic this year." : )
        • Re: Memorial Day

          Mon, May 25, 2009 - 10:24 AM
          my babe husband he like the cooking! he grill the steak and alos a chicken even!

          me i like the sleep at pool and watch.
          • Re: Memorial Day

            Mon, May 25, 2009 - 10:46 AM
            Mmm, sushi. And grilled steak. I'm grilling ribs tonight. I'm marinating them in a honey/lemon/vinegar/spice sauce, and then I'll put a dry rub on them. We'll have cornbread with them, and baked beans, and greens of some sort. And watermelon and lemon bars for dessert.

            Grilling is especially fine when husbands do it. It's nice when they shake your cocktails for you too.

            I have an uncle who goes out fishing every morning. He'll catch one or two salmon--smoke one, and grill the other, wrapped in foil with some slices of lemon and onion). During cocktail hour, which begins around 3pm at his beachhouse, we nibble the smoked salmon and drink cold beer. And at dinner time, we have the grilled salmon, with some side dishes various aunts have brought. My uncle is an unpredictable curmudgeon. He'll snarl at you for no good reason, and tear a random piece out of you, at random. Then he'll smile again. He loves to have family around him--dozens of us, aunts and uncles, cousins and babies. And he loves to be randomly mean. But there's nowhere else to get a beach like that, and meals like that, and we're mostly nice to each other.

            Did you get your movie date, Mr M?
            • Re: Memorial Day

              Mon, May 25, 2009 - 6:46 PM
              My friend X is studying for two finals tests tommorrow so I watch movie by meself and cried like a little bitch like three times. I think something about this movie went over me head or something. It was called Stay. I made some gyoza though and it was great. And I had 9 chocolate chip cookies and working on my second large bottle of chardonay. I'm contemplating a post about Carlos Miguel Allende but concerned about the Men In Black and their DEATH.

              Here is movie trailer. Very good. www.youtube.com/watch

              Anyone with a negative response can choke to death on my dick. You all inspire violent death. You are the true vermin. You are the plague. You are Hell on earth. You are the damned. Fuck you all. Prove me wrong.
              • Re: Memorial Day

                Mon, May 25, 2009 - 6:56 PM
                Ooh, that looks good. Good cast too. I'll add it to my netflix queue.

                And, if it's all the same to you, I'd rather choke on popcorn.
                • Re: Memorial Day

                  Mon, May 25, 2009 - 6:58 PM
                  Just fucking choke and die. What? Are you trying to be friends now? Fucking skank.
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                    Re: Memorial Day

                    Mon, May 25, 2009 - 7:13 PM
                    No, just chatting.

                    Does it hurt when you get cussing spells like that? Or is it kind of fun?
                    • Re: Memorial Day

                      Mon, May 25, 2009 - 7:17 PM
                      It's very fun. I have tourettes, nymphomania & alzheimers. So I can cuss all I want and fuck like a beast and forget all about it. You wanna fuck? I need pussy soooooooo bad! Give it to me baby. Give me that funk that funky stuff. .............
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                        Re: Memorial Day

                        Mon, May 25, 2009 - 7:50 PM
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                        The last time you saw any pussy was when you popped out of one.
                        • Re: Memorial Day

                          Mon, May 25, 2009 - 8:01 PM
                          That would be wrong. As if what you said is an insult. And as if I care. Pussy is incredible. Regardless of what you or anyone else has to say. But yes it has been a while. Since I'm a predominantly gay bi guy. And you point iz? Exactly. NOTHING!!! Dont rain on my I want pussy parade you fucking asshole. God. What a dick. You cannot deprive me of what I seek & desire. It will be had I assure you. Why you continuously choose not to be friends is beyond me. Tribe is about unity not division. You "vessel" devourer. ( Rolls eyes) AGAIN!!!
  • Re: Memorial Day

    Mon, May 25, 2009 - 1:56 PM
    Thanks for that. Being an Army brat, Mem Day has for me a rather different set of meanings. I'm inside writing all day, after spending much of the weekend partying.

    What with her and Caleb, it's been locust season in the Burning Man community too. I think met Sunshine only once, at a party out in the Valley last year after we'd been Tribe buds a while. I found her gentle and sweet, so always felt a pang when I saw her being mauled by the usual big brave blowhards in Politics tribe, some of whom yet cower behind alt bedsheets in here.

    I feel the same pang when I read most of the stuff I've seen posted on her since her death. Being a woman and a mystic, she was a *much* easier online target than a Jack London-type like Caleb. I first met him on the playa, where we fell into a heated argument at once about the role of the press during wartime. Both of us being professionals, we had very strong experience-backed opinions thought out to six decimal spaces. It was fun and we got on at once.

    There's very little talk of such matters as suicide at the Burner parties this weekend, but I do notice a drawing-closer, like we all know the chain has been shortened a couple of links.

    Again, Shannon, thanks so much for posting and for the oil on these troubled waters. That was about the sanest and most thoughtful thing I've read about Sunshine since she passed.

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